The Hard World Of Dating

The older I get the more I realize that trying to date gets harder. Because of this there are a few different issues with dating I have at the moment, I am stuck at an awkward age of 32 where I'm getting to old for anyone under 24. However trying to find someone who is over 25 not in a relationship and not damaged is almost impossible. Even when I do find that one person who is "a find" then add the difficulties of trying to hold a mature conversation but at the same time keep it light and interesting. Dating is hard and its becoming more and more difficult. Maybe the issue is social media, maybe the issue is with how people are being raised or maybe its Dating Websites.

My friends keep giving the suggestion to try dating websites, which I had refused for the longest time. I've given up on that fight and took my their advice, lets just say dating websites are worse than trying to meet someone at the bar. Seeing sites like Match.com and phone Apps likes Tinder have left me disillusioned, leaving me with the idea that all which that matters with women is Looks, Ethnicity, and Money. I am not saying being attractive isn't important, it is. You have to have some sort of attraction to the person you talking to, but at the same time the wonders of getting to know someone and who they are deep down inside truly does change one's perspective of attraction. I've also have had the personal experience from the ethnicity standpoint, I am half white and half middle eastern. For me its just my background and heritage, but for others its like I am a diseased infested individual that has to be locked away and never seen again. The world of dating can be a cold, cold world.

Even if you don't use a dating website, trying to talk with someone can be difficult. I am not smooth, I don't play games. I am just me and that seems to be a problem sometime. Its not that you should play games or be a smooth talker to get someone's interest. But you need confidence, I am currently trying to talk with someone I have met and I must say this is where i am lacking. While I am having a conversation i am finding it hard to transition, from creating interesting topic to keep a conversation going. Maybe some of it is I am to shy to call and everything is over text messaging. But I think I don't have confidence that she will be into what i have to bring to the table. So I am stuck, trying to get out of my own way, trying not to be the cause but trying to be a solution to my own problems.

Now obviously we all know that being in a relationship is rewarding in many different ways, and once you start talking, meeting each other, and hanging out dating is fun leaving everyone with the giddy feeling deep down inside. So this post isn't to trash dating, it's just a reference to what I see and what i am experiencing at the moment. So yes, dating can be frustrating and as we get older it gets harder. Maybe its not just me and maybe its society in general today. But in the end, would you have gone back and stop dating when you still can find that truly special someone? I am guessing not.

Until my next post, lets keep it light, lets pray for the lost lives in France, and let's give one special Boo-Yah for Stuart Scott.